We were taught we don’t always get what we want, but that belief is blocking your manifestation. I learnt some time ago that we shouldn’t teach our children that they don’t always get what they want, and that statement stuck with me for obvious reasons. Although it’s easier said than done when they’re asking for things you literally cannot give them, I was meditating on it this morning and finally understood why we shouldn’t teach that belief, and how it can block your manifestation and ultimately theirs. The reason people don’t manifest what they want is because what they want is the result. They are fixated on the end, not the identity or the action that leads to it.

When I look over my life, especially when I was a young, hard-headed teenager slash young adult, I got what I wanted when it was about who I wanted to be or what I wanted to do. I cannot remember anything I wanted to do in my youth that I didn’t eventually get to do, by hook or by crook. And what I saw was that when you make the decision to do or be something, you do what you need to do to get it, and the by-products of that, good or bad, naturally come to you. So obviously, you want to focus on the things that bring the good.

You will not manifest anything if you are trying to get things. But when you decide within yourself who you want to be, and what you are going to do, and you do it without worrying about how people will react, you get it. You start living the life you want right here, right now. The focus on being and doing is so much easier, yet so much more powerful, than the focus on the thing. Because when the focus is only the thing, you skip everything required to become the person who has it, and then, when you don’t get the thing, it is frustrating and painful and it feels like life has done you dirty. You set your sights on the bag, the hair, the car, the private school, the holiday home, and when you don’t get them, it hurts. It feels unfair. And when you see people around you with those things, it can feel soul-destroying, but that is because you have attached your identity to the thing, not the becoming.

When I look back over my life and the things I wanted to do, I found the entry point and I started there. Later on, I graduated into the bigger, more serious versions of those same things. I manifested the life I wanted by doing the things and becoming the person who has that life, not by chasing the outcomes. The part I want you to really hear is this: you are already powerful enough, brilliant enough, and worthy enough to begin right now. You don’t need permission, proof, or a perfect plan. The greatness you are looking for is not out there, it is already in you. Today is the day you claim it, not by wishing, but by being.

My key takeaway is this: for manifestation to work, you have got to decide in your mind who you want to be, what you want to do, and then start doing it right here, right now. Find the entry point and start there. If this message resonates with you at all, my book I AM Success shares the daily meditations and insights that will help you become the person who manifests the life they want. You can pre-order it now, use the link in my Instagram bio if you are listening on socials, or the link below this post if you are already reading on my website.